POINT: Sometimes it's better to be happy than right

POINT: Sometimes it's better to be happy than right

There comes a moment during an argument with a friend, loved one, family member, or homeless guy on the street where you realize that you're no longer arguing for the sake of truth. Our minds build up a resistance over the course of an argument which enforce a different priority than the one we started with: Being Right. Gaining an admission from our opposition that they are incorrect generally becomes the reason for persisting after it's become apparent to outside observers that the two people arguing will never truly agree.

That's when you should concede, give up, let go.

"But isn't that compromising, Erni? Isn't that the very thing you rail against to a point of stubborn idiocy?" Nope, and I'll tell ya why: Because you don't have to really believe the person's right to say they are. If you're not arguing about an issue that's going to cause irreparable damages to your relationship, it really doesn't matter in the long run.

Example 1: Say I'm a raging lunatic who believes that dogs should be allowed in every single place people are, and decide to take my dog into every establishment I enter, thus compromising the safety and hygeine of the general public. And let's say you are my significant other who spends hours on end getting thrown out of restaurants and waiting for me to finish protesting for my cause : IRREPARABLE DIFFERENCE. (For the record, deep down I'd love to protest for that cause, but I realize there's a 99% chance it's a losing battle.)

Example 2: Say, however, I'm a raging lunatic who believes that maybe, just maybe, being gay is not a sin against the great spirit in the sky, whereas you, my significant other, believe it's a serious offense. This could be a problem for 2 reasons: 1. one of us is gay. clearly not a problem (although ye who know my track record may beg to differ). 2. one of us is a violent activist, seeking out conservatives and smiting them. if neither of these is the case, it's kind of a moot point. get it?

so what am i saying? drop it. at some point it becomes inane to have anxiety attacks worrying about this difference of opinion. in most successful close relationships, there are no major issues (religion, lifestyle, football) about which two people have such major disagreements that they can't get along. every thing else just isn't worth your time and energy spent worrying. just let stuff go and be happy kids.